The Secret To The Perfect Thanksgiving Free From Tradition

Bored by the same old turkey-and-gravy routine — why not shake it up this year?

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Published November 07, 2025
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Be honest — does the thought of yet another year of turkey, mashed potatoes and green bean casserole on Thanksgiving leave you feeling … meh? You’re not alone. In fact, one year, my husband and I were so “over it” that we made a homemade Chicago-style deep-dish pizza. And honestly? Everyone loved it. It was super festive in its own way.

The good news is that you don’t have to go to that extreme to switch things up. You can totally rekindle the excitement with a few tweaks to the predictable lineup. There are alternatives that possess a lot of gravitas without being fussy. So, inject some zing into your Thanksgiving meal with these fresh takes on classic substitutes for the main.

Pork & Fowl Fans

Chef Jared Slipp, of Tremolo in Middleburg, VA, suggests trying a different bird, such as chicken, duck or pheasant. He’s staunchly opposed to using the oven and suggests instead using a sous vide machine — some are pricey, but he says it’s worth it because it frees up your oven for everything else and prevents overcooking.

Pork tenderloin is a great stand-in, too. It’s easy but elegant. I’d sear it and pop it in the oven for an easy-peasy main that looks and tastes divine. Or step it up and channel your inner Hawaiian. Executive Sous Chef at the Ritz-Carlton, Kapalua, Joshua Werksman, recommends braising a pork shoulder and pairing it with Maui pineapple preserve. He says the tender meat is complemented by the sweetness of the tropical fruit.

Beef Lovers

For many, prime rib is the king of turkey stand-ins. Mark Namdar, general manager of Canal House in Georgetown, Washington, D.C., oversees the culinary program. His pro tip is to marinate the beef overnight using a Chesapeake-inspired twist — signature Old Bay seasoning spruced up with parsley, chives and a splash of lemon zest. On Thanksgiving, roast it at 225°F for 25 minutes per pound; it allows you to take a stroll around the block, watch football or catch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. He suggests serving it with crab-horseradish butter and classic jus.

The Magic of “Sidesgiving”

Oh, you haven’t heard of it? It’s entirely possible that a Sidesgiving is what you’ve been chasing all along. If you’ve already decided not to fuss over a Thanksgiving turkey, why not lean into the sides?

A Sidesgiving officially elevates the sides so they’re the main act, not merely accessories. Your entire feast revolves around a bevy of colorful dishes. The upsides are numerous. First, it’ll be surprising and varied — spotlighting both familiar and unusual flavors. It’s also a concept that lends itself well to asking your family and friends to bring their favorite side. After all, it’s the time of year when “giving” is embedded in the aesthetic. Inviting guests to pitch in allows them to show off their cooking. It’ll also relieve you from having to do all the work, tamping down stress levels. It’ll likely be a less expensive, less time-consuming affair for all. The attitude of this Thanksgiving twist may also involve fewer calories than the typical A-to-Z feast.

Beyond Mashed Potatoes

If I were invited to a Sidesgiving, I’d arrive with a Mexican corn salad and a pan of homemade jalapeño mac and cheese with bacon bits. The salad is light and healthy, with kale, avocado, fontina cheese and corn. The mac and cheese is not light (no surprise!) but it’s a slam-dunk crowd-pleaser.

Need some other ideas? When we consulted the pros, they offered jazzed-up comfort foods such as cornbread stuffing, creamed corn with tarragon and a trio of potatoes prepared in distinct ways. You’ll notice these nod to time-honored classics. Using this approach, take your go-to side and look for a recipe that changes it up. Bottom line: bring what you love, even if it has no relationship to Thanksgiving. There’s a good chance someone at the gathering will be happy it’s part of the smorgasbord.

Make It Your Own

Whether you’re sticking with traditional Thanksgiving foods and flavors, tweaking them or sidestepping them altogether, let this be the year you celebrate in a way that actually reflects you.

Whatever you do, keep it playful. The year I made deep-dish Chicago-style pizza turned into one of my best memories. Since then, I’ve switched things up year after year — sometimes traditional, sometimes totally off-script. Often, I just follow my mood and swap things out, no apologies. I’ve honestly found it’s more fun this way.

What do YOU typically serve on Thanksgiving? The traditional turkey? Let us know in the comments below.

 

Kathryn Streeter is a freelance writer living in Washington, D.C. whose work has appeared in USA Today, The Washington Post, Islands, The Week and elsewhere. Learn more at KathrynStreeter.com.