I’ve been anxious for as long as I can remember. As a kid, I worried about everything from wars to tornadoes to whether I would ever get boobs (spoiler alert: I did). I used to wait for my parents to come home from dinner because I worried they’d get into a car accident. One time, they came home after “curfew,” and I scolded them like they were teenagers when they finally walked in the door.
Even though I’ve grown out of some of the intense anxiety I experienced as a child, I’ve never been able to rid myself of it completely. I’m far from alone. Around 40 million American adults suffer from an anxiety disorder, and with the constant stream of horrific and heartbreaking news, that number is sure to rise.
These days, it takes an extra dose of mindfulness and discipline to keep anxiety from completely taking over. For me, consistent small daily practices really help, so here are the three things I do every day to keep the anxiety gremlins from getting the best of me.
Meditate
The first time I meditated was in high school. I remember lying on a mat, trying to quiet my “monkey mind” as the teacher guided us through peaceful landscapes and breathing techniques. Like many people, I was convinced I was “bad” at meditating, but over the years, I’ve learned that meditation isn’t about getting rid of your thoughts or making your mind blank (which isn’t possible). It’s about acknowledging your thoughts and then letting them go.
The research around meditation is promising. Studies have found it can be as effective as commonly prescribed antidepressants and can help manage anxiety. I’ve been able to keep a regular meditation practice by committing to just 10 minutes a day, which is a manageable amount of time that fits into even the busiest schedules. I’ve used different apps, including Calm, 10 Percent Happier, and Headspace, and attended in-person classes and workshops. Like exercise, the best meditation practice is the one you do regularly, so experiment to find the app or type of meditation that works best for you.
Walk
My grandmother used to walk three miles a day, well into her 70s. I’ve followed in her footsteps, so to speak, by aiming for five or six miles a day whenever possible. During the pandemic, walks around my neighborhood saved my sanity and gave me ample opportunity to daydream and listen to my favorite podcasts. Even if I don’t feel like it, I’ll tell myself I only need to go for 20 minutes, which gets me out the door.